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QUICK RECAP:

TRUST:

-so much negotiating & talking before anything occurs; must feel safe

-casual partners “we get along” “PLAY DATES” timeshare

-white, straight, male dominate –showing; @gallery

-Dominatrix…domination & submission

-“receiving pain” — incredible relief from having control; receive pleasures

VARIOUS GENRES:

-gay leather

-het leather

-rope

One BDSM community member stood up to say something about belonging to community and she say, “Hello fellow pervert…”  and I wrote it down.

EXPLORATION; crossing boundaries (BDSM is sort of like ART 160….NELL–put that in the catalog!)

I learned new vocabulary…

SPLOSHING—when you get really messy with food. like instead of mud wrestling…food wrestling.

Sexuality is TABOO- – it is sexy because it is taboo– we “other” it *** (I circled this)

Then Dr. Hackett spoke about the “Sex Wars” and the differing feminist views on BDSM:

1.  Eroticism is about submission & dominance and therefore a person is “turned on” by what is a cosntruct.  Make explicit safe words.  Parody as a way to deconstruct.

2.  Katherine McKennon.  We are socialized to view the submission & dominance construct as sexual.  There is a counter narrative of equality.

I forgot I went to this.

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One Comment

  1. nice recap of this experience–glad you went, and glad you remembered you went!

    “. EXPLORATION; crossing boundaries (BDSM is sort of like ART 160….NELL–put that in the catalog!)”

    You are a funny Phoebe


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